it is less important for you tell the kids together. I would almost just cancel the meeting with her.... Just when you get a chance tell the kids individually "Your mom and I are getting a divorce, and this time it is really happening." No need to tell them why ("We've just grown apart" is enough.) Certainly do not throw her under the bus by outing her PA.
I agree....I would even just let her tell the kids.
Text her:
"I changed my mind. No need for us to meet. I believe it is best if you tell the kids you are filing for D."
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
