I also think it gave me false hope. If I follow DB and Sandi to the T, my marriage can be saved..... I could've done without the false hope....BUT, LH, Steve, vets warned me of that. Couldn't listen at the time. Did not compute.
I believe DR was written to give better expectations than DB. That is why I recommend reading DR vs DB.
Each of us comes here with a certain belief system in place. Challenging those beliefs to help see the "truth" takes time. Some come with "false hope" and others with "false despair". Non of us know what will happen in the future, so the best we can do is make positive changes to our behavior. If the spouse has a change of heart or not, we are better equipped to deal with the challenges we face in relationships. All the skills I learned dealing with my X translate into better relationships with everyone else as well.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
