Oh - and about MIL coming to help you - please make sure she knows what is going on before she comes. Be brutally honest. H is living with an affair partner, the woman spied on you and threatened suicide, she doesn't want him seeing his son etc. If she can't be on your side you don't need her there. And honestly, you don't need her there if she's going t be there telling YOU what YOU should be doing to "win him back". If she can't see her son is totally being a cad, you won't want her there.
Fortunately MIL and I have been really close from the start, even from when H and I started dating. I have been blessed with not only her support through all of this, but also the fact that she has been a good friend to me. I can safely say I talk to her more than she talks to her son, so naturally, I have told her all of the details of the separation (and continued to update her). I know that her coming here is essentially for me and her grandson, and not to try to "get my H back," so at least in this case I don't have to worry about her.
