I totally agree with what you have said and i definitely will put all the recent hurt behind for now when telling the kids. They are my main priority going forward. As I have learned I can only control myself and my emotions. This will,be the second time in 3 years we will be telling them this news. Not that it changes anything but i have this pit in my stomach that she is going to hugely regret this When she has cleared from her fog…maybe im wrong just a feeling. I’m much stronger this go around than I was last time.
Dink, please please please do yourself a favor and resolve yourself to STICK to the discussion on how to tell the kids. Do not get into anything else relationship related. You have talked about the relationship way more than you should already.
Go in with this mindset: "I am going to stick to discussing how to tell the kids. If she deviates into any other territory, I will steer the conversation BACK to the how to tell the kids." And make up your mind ahead of time that you will not discuss anything else. No more apologies (you've said the), no more discussion about last weekend, no more talk about OM, what she is doing, that it is her decision. Remember, you've already said all there is to say about all of that. LBSs get themselves into more turmoil by constantly wanting to discuss everything over and over again. Trust me, from my own experience, it does NO good.
Stick to how to tell the kids. All other topics are verboten!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
