I think there are several answers. Sandi's posts taught me alot about life, women, why people do things. Lots of street smarts to gain.

I also think it gave me false hope. If I follow DB and Sandi to the T, my marriage can be saved.
While I think everything happened as it should've and I'm incredibly lucky the D happened exactly when it did for reasons that would too much reveal some anonymity; I could've done without the false hope.

BUT, LH, Steve, vets warned me of that. Couldn't listen at the time. Did not compute.


H37, W37
D4, S2
ILYBNILWY 9/19
BD 9/19
EA discovered 10/19
Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated