I think there are several answers. Sandi's posts taught me alot about life, women, why people do things. Lots of street smarts to gain.
I also think it gave me false hope. If I follow DB and Sandi to the T, my marriage can be saved. While I think everything happened as it should've and I'm incredibly lucky the D happened exactly when it did for reasons that would too much reveal some anonymity; I could've done without the false hope.
BUT, LH, Steve, vets warned me of that. Couldn't listen at the time. Did not compute.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated