My exw took out $500 from our account without telling me. When I chatted with her -she had a valid reason however it did break the agreement that we would discuss withdrawls before performing them. What it did show me was that she no longer at a place to have those kind of conversations with me about it. She was at a place where my "well being" was no longer her concern.
This is an interesting point, Valeska. Yes, the amount is most probably not the issue and I do not care really what his reasons were, but we did have similar agreement to always consult or at least tell each other about any withdrawals. It just feels like being betrayed all over again, especially as this savings account was for a down payment for our new house. I guess it is good for me to know that like your ex, my H has stopped caring for my wellbeing and my financial future. It makes me feel that it is easier to move forward without him.
