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How extreme was her diet? That kind of weight loss requires a 1250 calorie deficit per day. Difficult to achieve unless someone was eating a lot of junk food before, or is following a keto/intermittent fasting protocol. And as I asked before - do you need to lose weight? Is this a matter of her leaving you behind? Or her losing weight to spite you (if you had been nagging her about hers)? Or her losing weight in order to attract the target of her infatuation? (Please tell me it's not her personal trainer - that's such a cliche!). Or had a family member's death or illness sent her off on the road to better health?

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What I have seen is rapid weight loss from exercise (60+ lbs in ~6 months)

Are you sure about this? Because weight loss in women from exercise alone is not this rapid. In fact, weight loss is mostly from diet although exercise is necessary to keep the weight off. And 10 lbs a month weight loss is extremely difficult for most women without either an extreme diet or drugs. (Or a medical issue like hyperthyroidism, colitis or other). What exactly have you seen?

Yes diet and exercising every day. She looks amazing. The transformation has been unreal.
Are you keeping up with her fitness level?

So far so good. I'm feeling pretty confident. I keep getting compliments from other wives.

What do you think is going on here if its not MLC? Straight up existing PA yet to be discovered?

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How extreme was her diet? That kind of weight loss requires a 1250 calorie deficit per day. Difficult to achieve unless someone was eating a lot of junk food before, or is following a keto/intermittent fasting protocol. And as I asked before - do you need to lose weight? Is this a matter of her leaving you behind? Or her losing weight to spite you (if you had been nagging her about hers)? Or her losing weight in order to attract the target of her infatuation? (Please tell me it's not her personal trainer - that's such a cliche!). Or had a family member's death or illness sent her off on the road to better health?

Exactly. It's spite from when I expressed deep dissatisfaction about it (at the exact time the rapid loss started and OM became an infatuation). She wants to attract OM or someone else. No death or illness in the family.

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What do you think is going on here if its not MLC? Straight up existing PA yet to be discovered?
Truthfully I am pretty sure PA. Dressing up to go to the store is not good. What about her phone. Do you have access to her phone?

Good for you getting fit! Stay away from the other wives because they will come a calling.

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How often to PA partners meet? Because honestly I havent been able to connect the dots.

And even if it's PA, is this MLC or just wayward?

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They meet whenever they can.

Before I comment on MLC I would need to know ages and years together.

If you want to find out for sure you can.

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And if you don't initiate divorce you will also highly likely end up divorced. .

Is this because you need to initiate divorce to get them out the fog?

Or is it because so many just walk away even if you dont initiate divorce?

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B I would forget about the fog. Nothing snaps them out of it. Once d-train starts rolling downhill it is hard to stop.

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They meet whenever they can.

Before I comment on MLC I would need to know ages and years together.

If you want to find out for sure you can.

Please PM me your email address.

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Exactly. It's spite from when I expressed deep dissatisfaction about it (at the exact time the rapid loss started and OM became an infatuation). She wants to attract OM or someone else. No death or illness in the family.

Thus may be the key then. She didn't feel supported by you. Does she have any eating disorder history? Could she be bulimic? (The only other way I see weight loss this rapid).

I'd say, if you want to win her back, the first step would be to apologize for not being supportive in the past. Because if your love for her is dependent on her weight, she's not ever going to be comfortable or secure in your marriage.

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