I'm so glad I found this forum. It's really helping a lot.
I have a question though. I've read Sandi's threads and other MLCs that went through the process. From what I understand, they did not snap out of the fog until they hit rock bottom.
This only occurred when they realized they were going to lose their spouse and kids.
However, can this rock bottom only happen at the end of the MLC process (withdrawal, acceptance etc). Or can you snap them out of it say in the early stages like anger, before the affair/replay happens.
Or if you initiate divorce in replay, are you basically just guaranteeing the end of your marriage?
