Bema, dealing with all of this requires a lot of things. I feel strongly that IC is a must to help you sort through things and deal with everything. I forget since it has been a while if you are in IC or not? If not, please find a good IC and get into therapy. It will work wonders. Key is finding a good one. Do not settle, if after a couple of sessions you do not feel that IC is a good one, then find a new one. So many people get bad ICs and just give up on IC altogether. That is throwing the baby out with the bath water. A good IC will really help you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018