I feel so awful for my daughter right now. I should have listened to my gut.
So, I was at work and my D was at her dads when she got this job. Something didn’t sit right with me because as a mother, I couldn’t understand how a woman would get some total stranger to watch her 7 month old and 2.5 year old with autism would hire a 14 year old girl without meeting her first and having her meet the kids. My ex talked to her on the phone and brought her to the door and everything seemed kosher. Something felt off, but the aunt was there and that’s why I was Ok with it.
She said she would be home by 10, so I drove there at 10, waited in the car until she got home. I noticed a car pulled into a driveway ( it’s a condo complex) and I figured that was her. But she wasn’t getting out of the car. After about 7 minutes, D texts me and says “mom, you have to come and help, she’s drunk and the aunt can’t get her out of the car!” So I go to help, she is beyond wasted. She has open containers in the car, she drove halfway up on the grass. Drunk as a skunk. I sent D to the car, helped get her in the house. The aunt told me she isn’t supposed to be drinking and she is an alcoholic. They moved there to get her away from booze ( her parents own a well known bar in a lake community about 45 min away) they have been trying to get her into AA and she won’t go. I gave her the number a woman we work with at a recovery center who helps. She took my number to pay D, but I don’t think she will.
basically, my D is traumatized now. She gave up her night with her dad to babysit. She saw something awful and got stiffed. She’s super upset. This was her first babysitting job.
So I told her I will pay her, and she doesn’t have to go to school tomorrow. We discussed alcoholism a little. We discussed how important it will be for her to never drive drunk or get in a car with someone who has been drinking. That if she is ever in that position, to call me and I will be there.
What a night. Her dad feels awful. I feel awful. She feels sad. She is empathetic and feels bad for the kids. My poor kiddo
