Hi Everyone. Took a break. I am pretty over whelmed. Found out spouse has had resentments for 15 years but never bothered to tell me. Thought grin and bear it was a good approach. Seems I have a spouse who is pretty good at hiding what is true. So now, I do not know what is real and true and what is a good front. When a happy spouse shows up, I do not know if it is true or just a good front.
While it is true that WAS hide what is bothering them and let resentment build, also remember that they will rewrite history and only focus on the negatives in the marriage. With time and distance they will eventually remember the good parts of the marriage but it may be a long time before that happens unfortunately. Look at what she does and not what she says. If she is pushing for separation or D, then the happy front means nothing to your chances of R.
