Plus, having the profiles allow you to narrow in on people that at least have shared interests in common (which only physical attributes are seen at the bar scene for example).
It is easy to misunderstand someone in writing
I think what I have learned is that meeting someone in person is the best way to tell if you want a second date.
I am also planning to try to find some meetup groups to find others with similar interests. Or clubs, or other groups based on activities I enjoy. I’d love to meet someone more organically through one of these other outlets
Agree 100%--the perk of online dating is knowing you have interests and compatibilities and goals in common. You can get most of that from an activities group. Bar scenes, not so much! I remember I stopped doing "cold" pickups when I discovered, on a first date with a gorgeous lady I picked up, kids were a dealbreaker for her AND she had an off-and-on boyfriend.
Originally Posted by Elbereth
If you are spacing out and not feeling interest, that is a sure sign that this is not a match.
I agree in general and for this guy. Seeing first dates as JUST a fun encounter may help. Given how few second dates she goes on, hitting the pause button before saying "No" may help. Sometimes a spark takes time to develop. When you're not spacing out around someone, lol.
