I used to be a people pleaser myself. I know that probably didn’t come off so genuine. I’m aware and working towards changing it. I may try an al anon meeting rather than IC for now. It might help me relate and understand more of my own behaviors .
No, T- it was a first date. I didn’t delve into that. I didn’t feel the romantic connection, so there was no need for him to dig that up. I didn’t laugh and zoned out at one point of the date when he was detailing some internet hobby. I really do think he is a nice guy and would be a great match for someone, but that someone isn’t me. I told him that just now . No response. He usually responds in a second time Hey, maybe it’s my loss, who knows?
I hate doing it. But just like when a guy says the same to me, I feel the disappointment if I was interested, but he’s isn’t responsible for it just like I’m not responsible for his. Disappointment is just a part of life
