Such a good conversation going on. Not too much to add except there is something really beautiful about taking the time to get to know someone and not rushing to conclusions. I also believe that our experience with heart break and divorce has made this a really difficult task. Many of us are guarded in our ways unique to how our situation hurt us. Many of us pass judgement quickly.. on other people.. and ourselves. It seems like we add pressure without really knowing why.
If you have the date tomorrow - I would suggest besides trying to enjoy yourself...is to learn more about this guy. Perhaps he likes to send the text before he starts work so he doesn't forget, or maybe he gets up at 4a so 8a is really late for him. There could be a 1000 reasons why other than he's needy. Why a chain? Back in my hometown - Red Lobster is really fancy.
In all honest - If my date were to tell me that she thought I was needy because I send texts early and decided to take the whole day off to be excited and go to a chain restaurant... I would say to her... that's sounds like a YOU problem The truth is that I wake up at 4 so 8a is kinda late for me... and Red Lobster cheddar biscuits are the best!"...lol. I'm also sure she would probably never doubt the intentions of either of those again.
Just Relax. Be open...with him and yourself. You got this.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
