I think Core nailed pretty good what is very off putting for me. Dodging non-existent landmines, not confident enough to make a decision on where to go. When he did, I told him, “sure, sounds good” and gave no indication of having any issue with it, but he made it like I did. Then said he was overthinking it like he was not confident of something. It’s just not attractive. Is it because I’m a middle aged woman who is hard to “please”? I wouldn’t use the word “please” but yes, when you are a middle aged woman who has been alone and is independent doesn’t just want or need anyone. This is true. It takes a lot more to get our interest and keep it, that’s for sure.
Like I said, the overtop morning text with a bitmoji at 8:10 am every morning on the dot is too much before you even met or spoke on a phone. It is uncomfortable to me. The over excitement when we haven’t met is uncomfortable to me. It’s not a matter of him “winning” or “losing” in how he acts. It doesn’t feel good to me.
And he has been divorced one year. His wife cheated and recently married her affair partner. I’m sure he is drenched in insecurity. He only sees his 14 year old twin sons every other weekend . I actually asked why. It was alimony or this arrangement. He chose this. But don’t worry “ when life hands him lemons he makes lemonade and he’s always positive!”
LH, you would hate all of this from a woman, and you know it. He’s not just a “nice guy” . I know more of what he is doing , because this used to be me. And that stupid statistic you love to throw out there with the 120, has nothing to do with middle aged woman being easy to please. You aren’t the easiest to please yourself. Your physical aesthetic you need also makes you very difficult to please.
Yes, OLD is absolutely soul sucking. My soul has I am afraid has been drained.
I am going through with the date because he took the whole day off for it( I did not know that) but if I’m not interested , I will let him know promptly that I did not feel a connection. And I will as I always do, Offer to pay my half .
