I believe it helped me gain an intellectual understanding and answer some questions about my X's behavior. I will never know the real truth. I am just as guilty of letting the marriage fail as my X. Both of us were ignorant in the ways to truly make it work.
The insight that sandi provided in my sitch was invaluable. Her writings and direct guidance in my threads was almost a carbon copy of what my W was saying and doing. What sandi went through in her waywardness really was very very similar to my W. Even down to the religious and church aspect of it. Obviously, as with EVERTYHING in life, there is no one size fits all. So I can see that her perspective may not be such an exact fit as it was in my situation. R2C I gather that is what you meant by "t helped me gain an intellectual understanding and answer some questions about my X's behavior". But sandi's fog, as she described it was spot on for my W's.
Not every spouse that comes here is a WS. And then there is the gender aspect of sandi's advice (WWs and WHs do not follow the same MO). But as for me and my situation, sandi was a God send. I truly believe I found this forum and she found my thread by the providence of God.
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M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
