Core - Still Alive #7?

[Core]

Wow, where do I even start? I could have pulled a dozen quotes from 4 or 5 different posters. Let me start here, I don't know much about you Core. Are you depressed? Perhaps, I have no way of knowing. However, I can tell you this, it appears you and I share a great number of beliefs in common and I can assure you I AM NOT DEPRESSED. What I am is pssd! Very pssd that my country is being hijacked by a crazy minority that wants to take us back to the very things we fought to leave from.

Yes and yes. It's very much anger I'm feeling, mixed in with anxiety, demoralization and hopelessness. Our culture is attacked, our country, our values, beliefs, skin color, and for me even my very spirit, body and mind threatened just for asking people for example this question "when do you think we should lift the mask mandates locally". Local what I call fascist chapters which I didnt know were in my city thought questioning things was wrong and I received every label in the book and multiple threats, over that question.

Schools? OMG again where do I start? The best thing you can do is get your children out of the total failure that is public education these days - it's become public indoctrination in too many schools. Far too many kids cannot spell, cannot add or subtract, cannot even make change when running the check-out counter. But they can tell you about non-binary or having their penis removed if that's what they feel needs to occur and on and on. Home school if you can. Pool together with neighbors to make it happen. Move them to private school if you can afford it. Or find the best school choice school available - if that is even an option in your area.

My only hope here because my Ex loves the school system, is I can get the kids in private or home school for half their time in school. Some schools here according to a family member who was in them were allowing kids to opt out of tests because of equity and hurt feelings over their potential scores. To me, thats extreme and disadvantages the kids.

I'm not going to argue each and every point. I just want to support and reinforce to you that having the beliefs you have does not make you depressed in and of itself. What else can you do? Well many, many others have moved away. I can't tell you how many of my friends have left their crazy state or disintegrating city to move to a place with more like people. New York, California, Illinois and other states are seeing record numbers of people flee. It's happening all over the place and is saving the sanity of some of these people. Because as you state, you can't easily fight the corruption and craziness that has taken hold. And when you do, they try to convince you that YOU are the problem, it's you, it's depression, you're raciest, you're not woke, you're just not smart enough to understand.

I appreciate it Don. I'd love to flee with my kids but alas, the only way I can move is if the Ex also moves and somehow we agree to move to the same state. She's only interested in NY, CA and NC currently. I understand why so many are leaving the states due to how they are treated and accept that I'm going to be and will be treated as an outsider, someone different, as a minority where I live. And not in a be proud and its ok way. 3 murders over the weekend, 10 shootings, carjackings...the joys of my small but violent city that is in the top 5 most violent AND its increasing for years on end. My local jail let the sex offenders out because of covid, how wonderful, I feel so much safer, cant imagine how the raped women and children from those men must feel seeing their assailants out early.

Just please do not think it's you and you're thinking is wrong. It is not. You are not alone. You and I may be a minority on a long since past it's prime discussion board with a dozen people left but widen the sample size and you'll see you are in the majority or close. I guess we'll find out this November. I'm betting you and I will be again shown to be in the majority. People are waking up and they've had enough.

I'm just shocked, here on the boards I learned about what gaslighting is, got good resources on validating, on understanding controlling actions, words and mannerisms, learned about covert narc traits, developed more give and take, male and female differences in the D process, being a rock and stoic. The board, divorce process and my own counseling did me so well, that my despite my already distrust of Gov and media, my newfound abilities began to really cut through and help me see through the stronger lies of the media and politicians, especially some left leaning politicians and some right leaning media companies I had yet to see through. I began to see through the BS on reddit, facebook, my kids school district, and now corporate communications. Once you see how the lies are done, how they repeat like a m0ckingbird and coerce, it gets easier and easier to have strong discernment. Like my company as soon as they started pushing transparency, I knew it wasnt long until the inversion of what they said would occur. Four months later company communications are the worse and most ambiguous they've ever been.

Anyways I'm ranting here, but the board helped me greatly and I'm disappointed in how so much I cherish, love and respect is becoming inverted. This very inversion thats happening in so many aspects of our culture is what pushed me to the Bible and I'm thankful for that. We should all be able to agree on whats reality but the waters are so muddied, there is so much fear, and so many people adopt the destructive. Whether the culture is really driven by the people or pushed by artificial means, people seem to adopt it as the feeling of being an outsider to the culture is similar to that feeling early in the divorce. Our instincts kick in of our tribe kicking us out (LH19 words the tribe analogy well).

Alas back to you Don, I wish the best for you. I'll check in time to time. I really didnt expect to come here and find the board more like Reddit. I thought the board would be still well rounded and all around helpful. Balanced.