I read through your previous thread (Too far gone) from May 2019 and this one. Perhaps one of the moderators could link or combine them to give folks a better history?
8 years being very distant and emotionally unavailable to your W is a really long time, and her still being in touch with her AP clouds the situation as well. Unfortunately you can't change either of those.
Originally Posted by LH19
Work on yourself and become the best man you can be physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.
^This is the crux of it. The most basic important advice. All you can do moving forward is work on yourself. Don't delay. Join a gym today, start reading about relationships and attraction...etc.
Originally Posted by LH19
Stick to your guns. W I can not just be friends with you.
I also agree with LH. Don't give her a safety net and ease her transition away from you.
Hang in there. You'll get through this.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
