I find it interesting that you don’t consider your marriage to be a “real” marriage, yet you have been wanting to save it for so long and wanted her to have a change of heart and was hoping for a Hail Mary. What exactly made your marriage “not real”
The marriage to my ex was not a religious ceremony. He is Roman Catholic. One who doesn’t practice . His OWW is a Catholic she wanted a marriage in a Catholic Church. Well, guess what. Me and my ex’s marriage wasn’t considered real because it wasn’t in the Catholic Church” so he got married to his affair partner like nothing ever happened under the eyes of the Catholic Church. Full of hypocrisy. I personally find Catholicism the most hypocritical religion out there, of course, my personal opinion. You are a sinner and a saint only when it’s convenient with a loop hole around every bad behavior.
Anyways, why is the 7 years of your marriage that bore 2 kids, not “real” . Is that in your eyes or the churches eyes ?
Does an annulment wipe away the marriage like it never existed?
No. The Church is really declaring in hindsight that, on the wedding day, specific factors prevented the bride and groom from bringing about a legally valid marriage in church law. The ceremony is not wiped away – all the guests saw it happen! The relationship of husband and wife is not wiped away – that remains the relationship between the man and woman while they lived together. The children are not wiped away – they were born in a loving union, are a blessing from our loving God and remain legitimate in church law.
Annulments are apparently complicated.
The marriage is considered to have occurred in some contexts (e.g., the childrens' legitimacy), but not in other contexts (ability to remarry). I couldn't find a statement on whether sex in an annulled marriage becomes premarital!
I am not Catholic. Many aspects of the religion I do not understand. But this one thing I do understand, there are those that believe in it stringently, and I respect their beliefs.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Like I said. Loop holes and sinner and saints to whatever narrative suits someone
Originally Posted by Traveler
Originally Posted by "Catholic Website"
Does an annulment wipe away the marriage like it never existed?
No. The Church is really declaring in hindsight that, on the wedding day, specific factors prevented the bride and groom from bringing about a legally valid marriage in church law. The ceremony is not wiped away – all the guests saw it happen! The relationship of husband and wife is not wiped away – that remains the relationship between the man and woman while they lived together. The children are not wiped away – they were born in a loving union, are a blessing from our loving God and remain legitimate in church law.
Annulments are apparently complicated.
The marriage is considered to have occurred in some contexts (e.g., the childrens' legitimacy), but not in other contexts (ability to remarry). I couldn't find a statement on whether sex in an annulled marriage becomes premarital!
Like I said, sinners and saints and loopholes to fit the desired narrative.
I am not Catholic. Many aspects of the religion I do not understand. But this one thing I do understand, there are those that believe in it stringently, and I respect their beliefs.
Same. I've also admired their great philosophers and apologists--e.g., St. Thomas Aquinas.
"An annulment is a declaration by a Church tribunal (a Catholic church court) that a marriage thought to be valid according to Church law actually fell short of at least one of the essential elements required for a binding union."
If you were not married in the catholic church, then it is very clear that one essential element required for a catholic marriage was missing. That's very simple.
"If a marriage is declared null, does it mean that the marriage never existed? No. It means that a marriage that was thought to be valid civilly and canonically was in fact not valid according to Church law. A declaration of nullity does not deny that a relationship existed. It simply states that the relationship was missing something that the Church requires for a valid marriage."
