Drh, I am a big proponent of making it clear to the WAS/WS that we aren't going to be buddies post D. My W said to me early on after BD "I hope we can still be friends." I told her, "I have lots of friends, I don't need anymore. That ain't happening."
Now, that doesn't mean you cannot be friendly in coparenting so please do not take it to mean that. I think you will find less stress in your life taking the high road as often as you can. That is why I seconded the suggestion to get into IC to process through your anger and resentment. So you can remain friendly and realize a lot of this stuff doesn't matter. That is why I said "who cares if she likes it or not that you talk to her cousin?" Seriously, you shouldn't care. But hearing that from your daughter seemed to set you off. There are going to be things you do she doesn't like. Things you do she doesn't like. You can't worry about it.
IC is hugely important and I highly suggest it. You've been through the ringer and you need someone to help guide you through the rest of the storm.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
