I could have written your above post DV , word for word . I totally empathize. It’s a real struggle. I want to hate OW. But I can’t. She treats my daughter well. She definitely is a buffer for my ex’s short temper. Of course I’m happy that my daughter is a part of the family and OW and her family treats her as such. It could be awful for her, but it has not been. And I don’t think many know how it feels to have to appreciative of this and thankful to the woman who screwed your ex and blew up your family. Honestly, it’s an awful feeling for me. One I struggle with often . And while I am used to handing over my kid, I had to do it when she was a baby before she could even speak. I’m actually traumatized by that. She wasn’t even a year old. To a man who lied through his teeth and a woman who has not regards for a a married woman who was pregnant. And no, I never got an apology, she has never acknowledged it, and I have to just keep moving forward because my daughter is loved. And I wouldn’t want her to be treated any other way
I give you all the credit in the world G. I cannot imagine how difficult it would have been if my kids were babies when their happened. That would have been a hundred more times painful and scary for me. I admire you so much for having arrived at the place you have and for giving your daughter such a gift by supporting her in her relationship with them. You are an amazing, amazing person. (((HUGS)))
