Your ExH and his AFFAIR PARTNER read your threads? Yikes. Classy people.
Did you miss that part of my story BL? That’s where the title of my thread came from. I had an angry text from OW one day about how she and XH had found my thread and had read “every single post” (over 1,000 she said) and that she was upset about what I had said about them. She seemed to think that my version of events was somehow skewed because it didn’t line up with XH’s version…the man who has made a career out of cheating and lying to his significant others. She even dared me to use their real names - clearly not understanding the importance of it being an anonymous site. It was completely bizarre to me that they would stoop that low but even more so that she would then tell me about it…like somehow they were the wronged parties. XH has never said a word to me about it. I’m sure he was none too happy that she did either because I know he is smart enough to know how offside it was/is.
Anyway… at the time, I thought I would just stop posting but then I got really mad that they had violated my privacy in that way and I decided I wasn’t going to allow them to take away the one thing that had kept me sane while all this was going on. DnJ suggested that, rather than run away and hide, I choose to “live in the light” which is what I ultimately decided to do. Hence the name of the thread.
I had (naively) assumed that since the divorce was final and they have gotten married, they would lose interest in what I was doing and stay off of the site but apparently that’s not the case. I guess XH thinks there must be some advantage to knowing what I am thinking instead of just moving on and taking what I choose to show/tell him at face value. Personally, I have no interest in knowing people’s inner thoughts about me and if I were him, having lived his life the way he has, I would definitely not want to know.
Seriously though…XH (or OW… I know it is at least one of you)….because I know you are reading this… do yourself a huge favour and just stop. There is no benefit to you coming on here and looking for inside information. XH - If you truly want to be a good role model for our children, you need to start walking the walk instead of talking the talk. Start with this. Do the right thing. Stop reading my diary. Let me have my thoughts and work through my negative feelings in the best way I know how. You are not doing yourself any favours by reading about the times you p*ss me off. If it is significant enough, I will let you know. If there is something you need to know, just ask me. I am not being dishonest… I don’t tell you certain things for a reason. These are MY feelings and you aren’t entitled to them. You are (both) living the life you want so please, just go away and let me live mine.
