I don’t want to speak for DV, however, it’s not about being or acting like a blended family. It’s not that DV isn’t doing what’s right for the kids. She keeps a good friendly, although not friends relationship with the ex and the Wife. She doesn’t keep that because she really likes them, just like I don’t keep mine because I really like them either . It’s good for the kids. We both know it. And it’s good for us too I’m having a collaborative flexible realationship which also benefits us when it comes to parenting.
Like I’ve explained myself, it’s like having 2 very real situations you are trying handle and the feelings that come with them. Just because we do it, doesn’t mean we won’t be affected or triggered by certain things. I think the momma bear still gets triggered and we still haven’t forgotten why we are sharing our children with this OP. So yes, certain things are triggering. It doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate the stepparents being good to our children and caring about them. I know I am Grateful. OW had to pick D 14 up from school yesterday when she called upset about something and I was on a plane. I am thankful she did that. But I can’t forget how she became another person who does those things for her. It’s tough to feel both sides of the coin and separate the feelings.
We are not a blended family, but these are people that are now married to our childrens parents. Those worlds are going to collide. And DV, you handle it like a champ
