we're done again (#3)

[mako]

Three hours a day! Never doubt the determination of a WW lol. She can’t be liking this gases prices right now lol. Boy your kids are young too and are going to resent her for doing this to them. Your W is at the perfect MLC/ Grass is greener stage. Anyways glad to see you are doing well. Anything we can help you with or have you waived the white flag?

Yeah I’ve waived the white flag as far as the marriage goes.

We had something good, once, though that was a really long time ago. The kids would most certainly be better off with us together (assuming it was a good relationship). Financially we’d be better off. Those external factors make a lot of sense.

But a lot has changed. Last year, I freely went back to her with no demands. Now, that wouldn’t happen. I feel like she just strung me along and it burned up most of my goodwill, I don’t really trust her anymore. I mentioned probably in thread 1 that I wrote a love letter early on in the sitch, I couldn’t honestly say many of those things today. Even now, with a lower bar to meet, our communication remains poor. I have a lot of resentment that I’m working on. Could I go back if I made a bunch of demands that she was willing to meet? I don't know, there’s just a lot of baggage. Nothing is necessarily a deal breaker that couldn’t be worked out, but it would take a lot of work, and I’m not sure she’s worth it now. She’s been pushing me away for 3 or 4 years and she finally succeeded.

So yeah, I’ve waived the white flag. It helps to write stuff out though and have you all call things out if needed.