I don’t see where she controlled you by telling you who you can and cannot talk to. She told you how she felt about you talking to the cousin, but I didn’t see where she said not to?
And actually she didn't even say it to drh until their daughter said she didn't like it and he called her about it.
Drh, in the future I'd ignore these kinds of things. Personally, I'd talk to whomever I wanted and wouldn't care if she liked it or not. Why you felt the need to confront her over it is puzzling. Ginger I think makes a good point. You need to work through your resentment, and the best way to do that is through IC.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018