Living in the Light VII

[DonH]

Well I guess I’ll once again be the only dissenter here, what else is new. Lol. Although perhaps only partly. I don’t know anything at all about your ex, or details of what happened or who the woman in his life is or how she got there. All I can do is read what he sent. And I’m not seeing anything worthy of punching him in the face over. I have to wonder if he can’t win. You send pics and he doesn’t respond - so he’s an arse. He actually responds but not perfectly so he’s still an arse. Sure seems like no matter what he does he’s wrong and an arse. He can’t win this game. You don’t like him so no matter what he does it’s wrong. Could he have written it better, I’m sure he could have. But does he get any credit - ANY? Of course not - because you don’t like him.

I have to say I’d rather someone take ownership in the kids and treat them as “ours” or “we” because that’s best for the kids. Would “exs kids and I” sound better? Not to me. “Joe I and your kids are going to…” really? Now THAT would bother me. She loves your kids enough to see them as her own and part of her life - not an annoyance or duty that she’d rather not have to deal with. Again, sometimes it feels like the new SO of the ex can’t win. If they do nothing or want to do nothing with the kids they are bad and wrong. If they do too much they are bad and wrong. If they don’t say it the correct way they are bad and wrong. They can’t win. But the kids certainly lose.

Even bad people can do good things sometimes. Anything can be twisted around to be bad and worthy of a punch in the face. I just don’t see this example of worthy of that punch. At least he tried to say thank you. Give him a little credit. He can still be the jerk that did all the bad things he’s done. Giving him a little credit or at least cutting him a little slack now and then doesn’t mean the other stuff never happened.

Just my minority opinion I guess.