The light approaches... slowly

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unchien,

Glad you checked in. Always good to read an update from folks and see how sitches progress over time.

Love the skiing/boarding with the kids, as well as the ability to work from home for more time with them around school (I can relate!).

Congrats on the marathon...that's a big accomplishment.

How did you meet GF being an hour away? Good you two are able to understand where you are in life with the kids and enjoy your weekend adventures.

Best of luck parenting w/ExW. Hopefully as you say things will thaw over time and the two of you can better collaborate when it comes to the kids. How are they handling everything btw? It must be tough for them.

As for my feelings, I would say I'm 90% indifferent with a 10% mix of residual resentment, not about the D but for how it actually transpired and the fallout on our kids. I'm a much happier person now. I'm a much better father now. I love my time with my kids, and I love my time without them. Things aren't perfect, and I often feel like I have no clue what I'm doing with life, but mostly I'm staying in the moment and enjoying the unpredictability of life.

This is a great summary. Love the attitude and perspective! Keep it up.

I will say, a lot of time exes that pushed for D and followed through get upset when the the LBS post-D moves forward with a new R. If things with the GF get serious, be prepared for your exW to get even more difficult. But you are handling all of this way better than I would!

Interesting. Have others here experienced that? I'm not there yet; it'd seem like it'd be a non-issue w/ExW moving OM2 in off the bat and them living together for a year and a half now, but who knows.