WAW Hired a Divorce Coach (Cont11.)

[SteveLW]

I’m not sure that this makes much sense, but I oddly felt lonelier before the divorce. This last week I missed my two days with the kids because of a funeral on my ex-wife side. I won’t get to see the kids for nine days. But I’m seven days through it I’m kind of enjoying being by myself.

We’re oddly before the divorce I felt like I was in a hurry today now I’m not feeling that at all. Part of me still thinks it would be nice to meet somebody wonderful, but there’s another part that just doesn’t want to go through the work or really need to deal with it. It’s a different feeling than before.

Interesting Scott. I'm a believer in feeling what we feel in the moment. I think it is further sign of emotional growth that you are okay alone. A lot of people aren't. We see it all the time on this forum, fear of being alone. It causes LBSs to jump right into a new serious relationship before they are ready. I think its really good that while you have a longing, it is not consuming you. I've said before that I think LBSs that jump right to dating apps and swiping left and right, either before the D is final, or immediately after, have something missing that they are trying to fill. The sad part is that means they are setting themselves up for another heartbreak down the road. I think one of the dumbest sayings ever is "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else". That literally gives me the heeby jeebies to hear. Its like drinking to dull pain. It is just masking the pain. When it is all said and done, the pain comes back.

So I'm glad to hear you say what you said in your last post. As I've said before, you're a example of a LBS that has put in, and are putting in the work. And you're going to better for it. You didn't take shortcuts, and therefore when you're ready the world will be your oyster and you will attract high quality potentials because of it!