Thank you for this. I agree with you…and that is why I have been very careful to give to many specific details to his family members and friends. And I’ve not agreed with my friend who wants me to spill the beans in detail. It’s her personality to strike back. I on the other hand do want to remain part of this family, I also have my step-sons to consider, and I also just realize that they would take sides and not believe everything I say. Who wants to admit their relative is a narcissist? Lol
I also am very careful to point out my own challenges and flaws. I admit I wasn’t always the best I could have been. But I did show up and I did try. I think they see that, and I think overall they see my response as graceful. So for that I am glad. They know i left the door open for reconciliation at first, so again, I made effort. In the end they will see a lot for themselves. I agree.
Yes, DnJ’s mantras are the best…. I have a few of these and other quotes on my refrigerator. Just to remind me each day!!
El
Me 52, H 56 T10 M7, 2nd MR for both 2 Step Sons (19 and 21) BD: Fall 2020 D finalized: July 2022 XH Married AP soon after D day.
