[quote=AnnKay] This statement is typically your brain trying to convince you it is ok to pursue. What does fighting for your marriage look like?
yes, I have to admit, at times it is hard to not go back and forth between pursue and distance because I was hopeful every time H seems nicer or say nice things. Maybe fighting for my marriage for me would mean emotionally not giving up on the idea that my H will come back, but practically I am not entirely sure what it looks like.