I guess in the context of the relationship, I was more of a control freak before we got married, and some of that spilled over into the marriage. I was more anxious when I was in University and had some counselling for it, but maybe that is how H always perceive me to be.
I understand what you are saying, though, and I do not doubt that losing some control of the relationship is making me feel anxious and insecure.
I do agree that there is some sort of power dynamic happening here where H feels like he needs to get more control. Ironically, H is the one who is OCD and diagnosed with anxiety.
The question is now, how do I practice letting go of the need to control more?
