A good rule of thumb is to come here BEFORE taking any actions when interaction with H. You have some wise people posting to you. Collectively, we have seen it all. Changing the way you interact and respond to H will be important. We have a lot of experience here making positive changes to our own behaviors, which can jump start yours.
Learning effective ways to set and enforce boundaries as well as improving other areas of communication such as validation will definitely help through this process. It is a process and we all have come out the other side better versions of ourselves.
Embrace change. I wish you well during this difficult time of your life.
HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
