you know what, it just struck me that we LBSes are not the back up plan - we are the taken for granted spouse whom the MLCr counts on to be right where we were left.
That's why they get so freaked out and (in my ex's case) furious when we refuse to play that game.
Isn’t that the definition of back up plan?
not my definition. back up plan implies if something else doesn't work out they will return. I do not think that is universally true. I can only speak for my case. I believe my exh thought he could go off and do whatever he wanted and I would be right where he left me, not because he wanted me, but because he took for granted that I would always be around. I think for him, and many others like him, they feel that time exists in parallel. We stay on course while they go off and do whatever they want, with whomever they want. they (may) have zero intention of coming back, but they still assume we will always want them back. His ego couldn't take it when he realized that wasn't happening.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
