Pregnant, Abandoned Twice, OW Affairs MLC? the Lot

[AnnKay]

Thank you, DejaVu for your support. This post really helped me to see some positives.

So my advice would be to try to act in a way that a year from now, regardless of the state of your marriage, you will be able to look back on how things went and be proud of how you conducted yourself.

This is such a nice way of looking at such a negative situation it nearly made me cry. It might also be the hormones :p Thanks for this. I need this perspective and really needed to hear (read) this right now.

Is your marriage really over? It is for now. No one knows the future.

I guess I am afraid that if I did not fight for it, my children will think I denied them from having a complete family in the future.

There is a saying on here that really applies to your situation… If your H is truly serious about wanting to come back, you will know it. If he isn’t serious about it, you will be confused. Another one that applies… believe nothing of what he says and only half of what he does. If you keep those two things in mind, you will be okay.
(((HUGS)))

Thanks for reminding this. I have read these in other posts and forums and I just do not know in practice how you will really "know."