you know what, it just struck me that we LBSes are not the back up plan - we are the taken for granted spouse whom the MLCr counts on to be right where we were left.

That's why they get so freaked out and (in my ex's case) furious when we refuse to play that game.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver