Hi El. I can relate for sure. I still have positive relationships with XH’s family members that I had positive relationships with prior to BD and they have been supportive to the extent that they can. I think it is an awkward situation for people…especially when there is an affair or extensive dishonesty on the part of their own family member. And it is sadly way more common than it used to be and almost accepted by society in our new “my happiness is more important than anything else” messaging. I don’t ascribe to that mantra… in particular when there are kids involved. How can I when I have to watch my kids struggle every time they have to switch households? They are the real losers in all of this.
Relatives and friends will respond to this kind of a situation differently. I made a conscious decision at the start of everything not to let people’s responses bother me one way or the other. Thankfully, the people I really cared about are still in my life and the others have moved on. I wish them well. My life is no less full without them in it.
I agree with Eagle. I wouldn’t worry what does or does not get back to him. I think if his sister cares about you enough to stop by and see how you are doing and you know she is a good person, she will likely be careful about what she says to him. (((HUGS)))
