Ok so you got married I’m assuming had vows and he broke the vows and you didn’t. You can’t control what he did. You made an agreement for NC because YOU felt it was best for both you. He agreed and broke the agreement. You can’t control that. I will say it again, you can’t control ANYTHING he does only how you react to it.
I have followed your story from the beginning. IMO your biggest struggle was better boundaries for you and your children.
For the record I do believe that everyone here typically learns the hard way. We try to minimize the pain as much as possible. I was just curious why after everything you went through why you would tell Stella to do things when she’s ready. Some people are never ready and end up stuck here for years. Enforcing boundaries are hard but the quicker you do it the faster you see results.
You are going to be fine Eagle I think you have finally had enough.
