Eagle, I’m really sorry to hear about the recent developments in your story.
Don’t be sorry. If you read my whole thread and you see where I come from, I’m proud of the current state I’m in and the way I’m moving forward now.
Originally Posted by LH19
First NC is for you. You can’t control if your husband contacts you. You can control how you react it and you can control the method.
I’m sorry LH, but if you’ve read my thread we made an agreement a couple of weeks ago to go NC, except for business. I initiated, he agreed. Thought it was best for the both of us. He doesn’t keep his promise. I do. I’m in control. So don’t know why you make this statement to me.
Originally Posted by LH19
I’m going to be honest here and this may sting a little. I do not believe you were ever the backup plan. Most LBS are not. He has been nothing but honest with you in the process but you chose not to listen to him saying oh that’s the MLC talking. That’s why IMO this board can get people stuck.
You can be honest to me but I will not follow you in this statement. If you’ve read my whole story from the beginning you would understand what I wanted to say with this sentence.
Originally Posted by LH19
Lastly I’m curious I read on Stella’s thread you told her to listen to the people on here because they are giving her great advice. Then you basically tell her to ignore it until she’s ready. Why would you tell her that knowing how much more pain she will likely go through?
I don’t tell her to ignore it. I tell her to take it with her in the process she is going through. I don’t know how it felt for you but I know many, when they got the advice, they don’t want to follow all of it, or do it step by step, simply because they are not ready yet. And that’s ok. You need to do it at your own pace. Pressure is not a good way to act either. Some of them can do this fairly quick, I remember El took on the advice quickly, but that doesn’t mean that the pain is less of will go away. All I said to her, do what you feel is right for you, since you are the most important person in this process now. That’s all.
