WW: "I'm not going to let you make me feel guilty"

[Valeska19]

I'm not understanding you about discrepancies. As for the part about motives, I'm setting the record straight that I'm not communicating with this cousin to cause issues with exWW. We go back a long way.

Here is the discrepancy
You: "Why should I have to lose my existing good relationships with ppl because exWW dug a hole for herself?"
This statement is clearly not about your kids - but your relationship with her family. This was the first thing you wrote. Your kids relationship was secondary.

When my kid told me what her mother said, I could have let it go, but I saw the possibility of exWW telling my kids that they aren't allowed to see their relative if they're with me, so it was an opportunity to nip that in the bud.

Did you?? Doubtful. First of all.. let's look at the facts. All she told her kid was that she didn't like something. Did she call you and talk about it no? YOU gave it so much power from there. YOU turned it into a problem. She just told you how she felt about it (after you initiated the conversation) and YOU felt the need to tell her what she deserved. Hate to tell you - but she is entitled to her feelings... just like you... whether you feel like she deserves them or not. Again.. that is your pain spewing all over her.

I did tell exWW that I'm not doing this to cause harm or upset her, that her relative treats everyone the same.

Yeah.. but do you think she can hear or believe that when you are calling her and saying she doesn't deserve her feelings??

The final email is meant to ram home that I won't be disrespected by someone who can't keep any agreement (she broke several), would pick my kids up at times when it wasn't her turn to have custody of them and always without telling me. I could go on but you get the point.

Honestly from what you described in this last post... all the disrespect came from you. All you are doing is trying to control a situation by trying to control her. All you are doing... is just showing her how hurt you are over and over again.

She might have hurt you... but it is YOUR responsibility to how you respond. Your anger got the best of you in this last interaction. Is that how you want to be?