WW: "I'm not going to let you make me feel guilty"

[Valeska19]

I can see that but the control issue goes both ways and she feels she can control me by telling me who I can and can't talk to.

Try this again w/o saying bring your wife into it. She told her kid... she didn't tell you. You brought it up. Is it possible to just look at your part?

I don't contact this cousin very often - she is an old lady and she usually asks me about the kids etc. We don't discuss exWW.

Is this in response to me questioning you about your motive? Do you see the discrepancies in comments?

I'm not really thinking in terms of ultimatums or control when I told her she can't contact me anymore. She told my youngest kid that she wants to remain "friends" but I don't want this.

Then why feel the need to send the final email.

I'm encouraging you to go deeper here.