I understand divorce changes things - so I don't go to parties that this cousin organizes and she knows that but she doesn't do it anymore anyway for the reasons I gave above.
She chooses to stay in touch with me and for my kids.
My kids don't have any contact with their mother's family because of what their mother has done.
I live a good distance from this cousin but I do pass her on the way to work and I sometimes take the kids with me and do something in the area. If I'm near, I'll stop by with the kids. There is no bad intention here.
