WF, I do find it funny though, just an observation, but you are essentially telling me to have some sympathy for Scott's ex (which I do not), but then tell me what I would or wouldn't want.
In short, you are entitled to your opinion about the sincerity of her tears. And I am to mine. Peace.
I'm not being contrary to be contrary to you. But you say out of pocket things and I'm going to call you out like I do to every one else when I feel like they took it a step too far.
I'm not defending how Scott's wife tanked this MR. In fact I'm not defending her at all. I'm explaining things as I see them. Most importantly I'm trying to get across that there are real people behind those tears. And treating every WAS/WS like they are a criminally insane caricature of an awful ex is beyond counterproductive, especially when the D is done. There's nothing to gain by mind-reading with the assumption of malintent. There's a lot to gain by recognizing the person you have to co-parent with the rest of your life is a person. Maybe not a particularly likable or lovable person but a person. But you've never had to spend years co-parenting with an ex of any kind. Not an unstable ex, not an addicted ex, not a volatile ex, not an unreliable ex, not an unpredictable ex, not even a pretty nice ex.
You're entitled to your opinion as always. And I don't have any expectation that you need to agree with me, but it would be nice that instead of doubling down you'd try recognize maybe, just maybe, I know a thing or two about this that you don't.
