I wonder if anyone without kids can really appreciate how hard it is and actually understand what they'd be getting in to.
When you ask someone on a date, all they're getting into is a date with you!
Are you imagining a new nuclear family? Your kids have a mom already. As for if you and she hit it off, what role she may play in your kids' lives, that depends on how they hit it off. Wolfman noted his D accepted his XW's BF but didn't accept his GF. It was unfair as he said, but there was nothing he could do to force the dynamic. After he got his GF got pregnant and he moved her in permanently, his D moved out permanently. Post-D families can look different. Flexibility is needed.
