That guy was a nice guy. But he didn’t want to put in effort. He just wanted to spend time at his convenience . That doesn’t work for me.
You know how I always post it drives me crazy when guys say “my kids are my number one priority?” I’ll explain that. Everyone’s kids should be their number one priority. It goes without saying. A lot of people are under the assumption that when dating as a single parent, the kids would have to get kicked out that position. Not at all! It’s finding the time and learning to balance dating on a priority list . How to learn how to give both emotionally and time wise to both dating/ a partner and your children. It’s not easy! It’s a real challenge. But totally doable. When you don’t have the kids, do you want to give a fair amount of energy to dating? If you are partnered up, will they be somewhere on the priority list when the kids are with the other parent ? When you are with the kids, can you make time for some contact?
I remember with M , On his non kid time, he prioritized a lot of stuff before our relationship. Should I be #1 all the time ? Absolutely not! We both had lives and hobbies. But he would put that stuff before special events that were important to me.
I’ve dated a lot of guys who use the “my kids are my number one priority” to have an out of effort and commitment. That’s not cool with me. They also tend to forget I have a child too and I manage to prioritize .
In conclusion, you never have to take your kids off the priority list. You just have to learn how to work it all in.
