Do you know the Sternberg's Triangulation Theory of Love?
Thanks for throwing this out there. I have been trying to recall the love single people should hold out for. Found it searching your words.
Consummate Love:Components: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment
I'm living my life with intention. I'm dating with intention. This is my goal.
If someone tells me on the first date they're trouble at being monogamous, they aren't looking for long term commitment that ends in M, etc., I believe them. Its not my job to try to change them or try to sell them. We simply don't match.
One of the men I met on a dating site who I have chosen to remain friends with admitted "I don't see the point in M again as I've raised my family. I am looking for a long term committed relationship". Me: "I hear you and I think knowing what you want is huge. So many people out there are just winging it and hoping it just works out. I, however, loved being M and I would one day like that for myself". Him: "Well, I suppose if she really wanted M, I could be convinced" Me: Not my job to sell that to you. That leads to resentment. Say, we got M and then one day a big disagreement --- then there is "I didn't even want to get M... YOU did". Nope, sorry... moving on.
I know what I want. I'm not going to make a square peg fit a round hole.
AND ---- LH before you get there... pilot worked out the miscommunication but I'm being cautious as I'm trying my best to not make a square peg fit in a round hole!!!
