A marriage that can't be repaired is either already toxic or will with absolute certainty will become toxic. And the longer one or both people hang on the more toxic it becomes. The thing about falling in love, marrying, having kids, then falling out of love is they know everything about you. They know what they can say and do to get in your good graces. They know what to say and do to push you over the edge. They know what they can do to poke the bear just enough to make themselves look like the victim. They know all of your insecurities and quirks. No body knows how to emotional manipulate you than the person you planned to spend the rest of your life with. And no body is better at actually following through with that manipulation than a person who doesn't actually want to be married to you or a person who desperately wants to keep you in the MR at all costs. That MR is absolutely no place for children so yes this is what is best for everyone.
Also being willing to do everything possible only matters if both people can see a way out of MR 1.0 into a MR 2.0. You can't force anyone to see the same future as you. Especially WAW/WW. Women if they aren't in crisis will think about leaving for years before they actually make their first attempt to go. And almost always they are saying what they needed and wanted in all those years. But there comes a point where there's no going back. Even if they wanted to, the level of resentment is so high and the levels of love and attraction are so low getting a brand new personality and a new lease on life isn't enough. Nothing is going to be enough.
