I'm still allowed disappointments. It doesn't mean I'm broken as a person.
KK I didn't say you shouldn't be disappointed. I questioned a broken heart. Last year I dated a girl for about 3.5 months where things were going really well. We were exclusive seeing each other when we could. One day I get a text that she heard from her ex boyfriend and needed time to think things through. I gracefully bowed out. Was I disappointed? Yes. Was I heart broken? No. My heart wasn't hers to break we were just getting to know each other. I never contacted her again and accepted her decision. This is what all of this pain teaches us.
For the all the love that is holy please do not think I'm like this with everyone I date...
I've had many dates over the last year.
I had a couple of dates with a guy. He was wanting something more serious committed than where I was out with him. I didn't know him that well but I didn't want to hold him back from what he was looking for. I bowed out and wished him well. He came back all apologetic that he was chasing the wrong thing. We went out again but I was a point where I just said I'm focusing on tidying up my D. We were in the last 90 days after a year and 1/2 of limbo. I was focusing more on friendship and having fun... taking the time to get to know someone before being committed. Again, he was wanting a bigger commitment and said so... I let him go again.
I've been on dates and there will be light texting after the date but I really leave it up to the guy to pursue asking me out again. Sometimes they just don't for whatever reason and I let them go.
I don't bat an eye, shed a tear or give a flying F.
I don't want you thinking I'm hung up on every guy I date. Soooo, far from the truth.
I think I made the mistake when pilot came back around that we were just dipping our toes back in the water to see if there was something still there... but he literally seemed to act like we were just picking back up where we left things 11mo ago.
Its just a trainwreck and not one worth revisiting any longer.
