Just got off the phone with my lawyer. He said he felt good about the tone of the letter from H's lawyer, and was actually surprised that at it. I did tell my lawyer, that I would like to save the marriage and do not want this to get vicious or mean. He said that he and H's attorny have worked together in the past and that they do keep this in mind.
It will be net income for now, and H can not change his deferred comp for now. The Alimony will be based on Gross income in the final settlement.
Suggested that I put together a balance sheet with est. values of items in the house.
Said that I would have to pay for life ins. on H, and should talk to H about it, as he would have to agree to a exam for it.
He is asking for proof of H paying "rent" to OW and said that the IRS should know about her additional income....
Also told him my unemployment is running out in like 5 weeks and he will change the wording on that. Did say I could start really looking for employeement now. Thank god, I need to get back into a routine....
He didn't understand the whole 2021 tax filing issues either so he is addressing that.
I asked about continued coverage for insurance and he said that would be COBRA..which is expensive.
I also told my lawyer that due to covid, my age and mental state, that finding a job in my old profession , at my old salary, is very hard right now. I worked in corporate dining and with alot of large companies going to work from home, these jobs are few in this area...
Lawyer is responding as we speak, so more to come... Thank you everyone for going through all of this with me.
