He walked out a year ago because I was still married and didn't think I would be divorced. So if he's just looking for a hook up/sex, is that a normal line to make in the sand. He would not even speak to me again until I was D.
On the one hand, good for him - you don't want a guy who wants to date married women. On the other hand it could've just been a convenient excuse to not get closer.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I'm not looking for thrilling so much as I am calm and steady.
Sex w/ExH in a car or a thrist with a pilot in from out of town doesn't scream "calm and steady".
Originally Posted by KitCat
Its gonna take a bit to get my heart unbroke from this... but I will not be chasing him like I did last time.
Good. Don't chase. Work on yourself.
KitCat - I get the distinct impression from your posts pilot is just looking for some easy steamy sex between flying from one place to another. He may even have similar situations lined up in other cities. If that's all you want, fine, but I do not get that impression. In terms of ExH he seems to be a hot mess and not know what he wants. My take would be turn away from both of them, focus on your own life and work on why you're into those type of guys. Maybe that'll lead to meeting you'll meet a calm and steady person.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
