#2 Out of the bottle

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Magnhild,

Consult an attorney. Do not agree to anything directly with STBXW.

Sometimes (perhaps often) the laws aren't fair and you'll have to live with that, but no need agree to any less than you're entitled to under the law. Your lawyer should be able to advise if you can recoup any of that €6000 for education and rental deposit, and how much of the equity you can reclaim from the mortgage payments you've made post separation.

It's a business negotiation. Use legal and financial representation as the mediators if needed - no need to sit down with her directly nor agree to anything she purposes without further thought/review.